I have it in my mind to return to the topics from the last two blogs, as I confess I had an ulterior motive when writing them. (Oh, you're hooked now!) But I want to wander off a little bit.
First let me say that at the moment I would have probably over 10 close friends that I would do anything in the world for because they're both good people and good, loving friends.
But you know what? Break-ups are hard.
We all need a little love, and most of us are looking for a "more-than-friend". It's called that for a reason. When a possibility is taken away from us it hurts.
Recently I have twice attempted to comfort close friends in this situation, simply because I see the movies where friends eat ice cream together or whatnot when one of them has just broken up with someone, and I've been disappointed when nobody has been there for me.
Do we live in a society where we think they'll be ok without our intervention, or they'd rather be alone, or that we're not close enough friends to be any comfort, or do we just assume someone else will be there for them?
I don't know. But I answer this way:
They will be better if you are there.
They may want to be quiet but probably don't want to be alone. They were in a relationship because they liked having another person around.
Close friendships can be formed in times of trouble, and friends are let in when they have proven their reliability, unselfishness and love.
What if everybody else assumes someone else is doing the comforting?
Maybe this doesn't matter to you. But I have decided I want to be the person who is there.
