I hope it's clear from the previous post that I think confusion is the main problem in the current state of dating affairs.
I have a tip for you that stops the confusion:
When you're asking someone on a date, use the word date!
You could say "would you like to go on a casual coffee date?" If you want to make it clear but keep the pressure off.
If you've already hung out lots but you think the other party may be confused about your intentions, say "I'd really like to take you out to dinner, on a date." (The formality of the date plans themselves can be used as a tool to keep it cool or really let the person know what importance you're putting on the relationship at whatever stage it's at)
Yes, this means they're less likely to say 'yes' just because they're polite and confused enough to think you might mean just friends and they don't want to make a scene, say no and then have you say "oh no I meant just as friends" (which you really just do to hedge your bets and lessen the rejection). That person didn't really like you anyway. Pretending it's just friends doesn't help.
The Wing Girls of YouTube fame say if someone turns you down, you should just be cool and say "I respect that. But you should think about it, because I think we'd make a great couple" and then leave them be to... Yep, actually think about it. How would you feel if someone said that to you? I know I'd have a whole lot of respect, and I'd definitively think about it more!
Instead, try taking the risk, use the word date and make it clear!
Let me know how that goes for you! Remember a rejection may not mean the technique didn't work.
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